Hehh. =)

I guess it's a balance between patronizing and rebuking.

It's not good to patronize one another. "Yea, you did it well. (but i'm sure i can do it a million times better than you)" "You did it good! (but it just wasn't good enough for me)" I mean, if we all patronized each other we would never grow. It's only through the rebuking that we learn, since we're all blinded to our imperfections most of the time (immune to it, beacuse we're living with our imperfections all the time), we need others to help us point out our imperfections so that we can correct them

But hehh... i guess it's not to good to rebuke every time an imperfection arises. I mean, hey, if you scolded me everytime i did something wrong, i'd be shrivelling somewhere into a ball of hay cos' i wouldnt be able to take it. But i'd appreciate it if u told me my weaknesses once in a while. And i just read an article which said that in a marriage, about 30% of problems are solvable... you just have to learn to tolerate and live with the other problems. Simarly, there are some imperfections in others which we have to live with and to tolerate. To love someone, even with their imperfections. But rebuke them when necessary to help them grow and mature and be nearer to perfection.

I guess... we got to rebuke in love. Rebuke not for your own gain, but to the benefit of the person you are rebuking.

(oh, don't scold me too much okie, i usually scold myself for many small things already... heh!)